There is a chasm of difference between a first-generation entrepreneur shaped by a severely disadvantaged childhood and one born into a second-generation legacy.
Thank you for this submission. Resonates on many levels.
Safety can feel unsettling to those conditioned by chaos.
When your life has been shaped by reacting to instability, stillness feels difficult. And it is hard to allow yourself to trust peace. But you realize that to be somewhat whole you need to learn to hold both safety and chaos in balance.
I want to start working for myself. I'm frustrated knowing I have the potential to earn more but feel stuck in the hourly wage rut. I'm in my twenties and didn't have a model for self-employment/ how to efficiently run a business. So it's all on me to figure it out. It's like walking through a maze in the dark. So many challenges need to be overcome and only I can overcome them. It's hard because there is no blueprint.
It would be an exaggeration and over-dramatic to say my childhood was “severely disadvantaged”, yet the general pattern you describe rings true in applying to some aspects of me. I’ve had to learn some things first hand the past few decades from trial and error without a decent framework to fall back onto from my childhood, leading me to struggle in my early adulthood. Whilst that meant some aspects of my development were delayed, the positive is that I’ve continued to go from strength to strength rather than reaching the stasis that most do at a younger age. The old me is thankfully now a distant memory. But it means I don’t take it for granted, which is both a blessing in driving me onwards to be even better, but sometimes a curse in making it difficult to relax.
As a parent it presents me with another quandary. In the respects I was lacking I think I’ve helped give my sons a better foundation - which is good of course, but I can also see the complacency it can cause too. Sometimes I think it would be better for them long term if they struggled a bit more like I had to.
Thank you for this submission. Resonates on many levels.
Safety can feel unsettling to those conditioned by chaos.
When your life has been shaped by reacting to instability, stillness feels difficult. And it is hard to allow yourself to trust peace. But you realize that to be somewhat whole you need to learn to hold both safety and chaos in balance.
I want to start working for myself. I'm frustrated knowing I have the potential to earn more but feel stuck in the hourly wage rut. I'm in my twenties and didn't have a model for self-employment/ how to efficiently run a business. So it's all on me to figure it out. It's like walking through a maze in the dark. So many challenges need to be overcome and only I can overcome them. It's hard because there is no blueprint.
Story of my life.
It would be an exaggeration and over-dramatic to say my childhood was “severely disadvantaged”, yet the general pattern you describe rings true in applying to some aspects of me. I’ve had to learn some things first hand the past few decades from trial and error without a decent framework to fall back onto from my childhood, leading me to struggle in my early adulthood. Whilst that meant some aspects of my development were delayed, the positive is that I’ve continued to go from strength to strength rather than reaching the stasis that most do at a younger age. The old me is thankfully now a distant memory. But it means I don’t take it for granted, which is both a blessing in driving me onwards to be even better, but sometimes a curse in making it difficult to relax.
As a parent it presents me with another quandary. In the respects I was lacking I think I’ve helped give my sons a better foundation - which is good of course, but I can also see the complacency it can cause too. Sometimes I think it would be better for them long term if they struggled a bit more like I had to.
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