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Andre Ruiz's avatar

It's all part of the journey. Any attempt for people to rationalize one path over another leaves themselves open to further doubt the potential of one's own personal discovery. If we can't ask and resolve these questions about ourselves, we can expect the problems to continue, further perpetuating the cause/effect that circulates in the form of miscommunications and lack of clarity.

Further, should we successfully rationalize our choices of settling down sooner or lack thereof, we effectively cop-out of the process needed to provide the absolute best versions of ourselves to a partner who would best suit us, as a person. Since life is frequently perceived as so short, there is no time to waste on settling, but not move so quickly as to diminish the ceremony of courtship. There will always be, "the ones who got away."

The fact that these conversations are taking place at all, is merely a step in the right direction. People just need to do the work, and be honest to themselves about what their needs are. It's a process, but one that has immeasurable value to all involved.

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