An often unspoken aspect is that men who indulge in their carnal desires to master their understanding of women, may become addicted to the novelty of such experiences. It can be difficult to forgo. Moreover, with time, many realise that by fully embracing their shadow side, they find themselves in a difficult position. The women who reflect this side may satisfy their carnal desires but are rarely those they feel are worth committing to. On the other hand, women who embody their light side and promote healing may leave them sexually unfulfilled. Consequently, they come to the realisation that the cost of their experience and wisdom is that they are unlikely to find a counterpart who does not feel like a compromise in some way, either on one side of the spectrum or the other. As a result, they often find themselves accepting the reality of their realistic options, leading to a sense of detachment.
Additionally, by the time this realisation occurs, they may be of an age where they can no longer effortlessly attract high-quality, intelligent, youthful women who would offer genuine care and love. Younger women of this calibre tend to prefer men their own age, while those who are more easily attracted might have less genuine intentions. Attraction is still possible, but it becomes more challenging.
There may be moments when these men reflect on whether it would have been better to commit earlier and forgo some of their experiences - choosing a different path, however, they understand this is a futile thought, as they would not willingly give up their sexual adventures nor their deeper understanding of the more complex aspects of women.
It's all part of the journey. Any attempt for people to rationalize one path over another leaves themselves open to further doubt the potential of one's own personal discovery. If we can't ask and resolve these questions about ourselves, we can expect the problems to continue, further perpetuating the cause/effect that circulates in the form of miscommunications and lack of clarity.
Further, should we successfully rationalize our choices of settling down sooner or lack thereof, we effectively cop-out of the process needed to provide the absolute best versions of ourselves to a partner who would best suit us, as a person. Since life is frequently perceived as so short, there is no time to waste on settling, but not move so quickly as to diminish the ceremony of courtship. There will always be, "the ones who got away."
The fact that these conversations are taking place at all, is merely a step in the right direction. People just need to do the work, and be honest to themselves about what their needs are. It's a process, but one that has immeasurable value to all involved.