Men and women love differently. I would argue that most women love their children more deeply than the men in their lives, perhaps because women biologically see children as needing maternal protection. In contrast, male love and protection tend to encompass both their woman and their children.
A man would willingly endure hardship to keep those he loves warm and safe. Most men express their love in a steadfast and dutiful manner - grounded in logic. For many men, providing affection, support, and protection is a rational choice. In many ways, men are more vulnerable in love because it is less ruled by emotions. Once a good man makes a choice, he usually commits fully. Women, however, often love through the lens of emotion, which can colour our logical decision-making. Without spiritual and emotional self-awareness, many women can be as cruel as we are loving, justifying our actions as "morally correct" because it "felt right" in the moment. Until we learn to emotionally ground ourselves, we may unconsciously rely on the men around us to fulfil that role. I believe many men recognise this dynamic and often dread the implications of their feelings for a woman.
Men's practical love is embodied by their willingness to make significant sacrifices, akin to giving an organ to the woman they cherish. Conversely, a woman's version of "ride or die" love often manifests as an unwavering pseudo-spiritual-level emotional commitment. For us, a profound romantic emotional bond we form is like giving away a part of ourselves - an emotional organ that can only be shared so many times, perhaps fewer than three in a lifetime.
I think the key to fostering long-term female love lies in gratitude - for how men love. However, this requires a degree of psychological and spiritual purity and maturity. Spiritually healthy women tend to find joy in the beauty of the world, making gratitude a more accessible and natural response.
"I believe many men recognise this dynamic and often dread the implications of their feelings for a woman."
The dread is not of any physical or even spiritual difficulties. It is of being made answerable for something you had no power to control one way or another.
3 max, that’s interesting. Does that mean if a woman’s had this or more long term relationships in the past the ability to have one of true desire wth another man is compromised?