In interpersonal relationships, there is a phenomenon where two people with unspoken resonance, for whatever reason, never fully express the extent of the love they feel for one another.
While a repression of the will never lasts like you say, like Schopenhauer i would argue that negation of the will is possible and necessary. Just because we deny certain resonances to unfold doesn’tmean we are makinga mistake. The negation of will, or libido in this case, is even the cornerstone of a functioning society. When men limit themselves in the women they take, and women also limit themselves in chasing men, we get a society without divorce and the degenerate drama of adultery and promiscuity so many suffer from today.
Especially difficult when you resonate with that person while already deep in a resonant relationship. It makes for a crucible of love, where you are called to become ‘Twice the Man’ in order to love two women uniquely.
Maybe there’s also a danger that if you make the resonance explicit too soon, it will shatter, the other person will pull back. Is part of what is alluring about resonance the mystery of it?
While a repression of the will never lasts like you say, like Schopenhauer i would argue that negation of the will is possible and necessary. Just because we deny certain resonances to unfold doesn’tmean we are makinga mistake. The negation of will, or libido in this case, is even the cornerstone of a functioning society. When men limit themselves in the women they take, and women also limit themselves in chasing men, we get a society without divorce and the degenerate drama of adultery and promiscuity so many suffer from today.
In a way, unlived love is psychically reserved for that person, thus, no matter what is given or purged onto another, the reservation remains.
Especially difficult when you resonate with that person while already deep in a resonant relationship. It makes for a crucible of love, where you are called to become ‘Twice the Man’ in order to love two women uniquely.
Excellent insight. I think I had a very similar one some time ago: https://open.substack.com/pub/georgehristov/p/love-is-a-sirens-call?r=v4sx&utm_medium=ios
Maybe there’s also a danger that if you make the resonance explicit too soon, it will shatter, the other person will pull back. Is part of what is alluring about resonance the mystery of it?