In our contemporary society, most men are afforded little to no inherent value and thus their existence is bound to an inevitable journey of self-ascendancy - a rite of passage imposed by circumstance.
Most men are inspired by women to reach the highest version of themselves, for at our best, we are muses for the weary male soul - symbols of beauty and hope. To be a man's muse is to be deemed worthy of his deepest investment. It is a profound compliment when a man chooses you to be his "ride or die" on his journey. His path is often shrouded, like walking through a dense fog, where the wisdom of direction only unfolds as he reaches each destination. The pursuit of purpose is a long and arduous journey, sometimes taking years, even decades, to fully realise.
I believe the disconnect arises when many women find themselves with men whose journey they do not truly trust. Modern society perpetuates a narrative in which men on this path are labelled as "projects", when in truth, we are all on a journey towards self-actualisation. It is as if men who are actively striving to improve themselves are deemed unworthy of love, dismissed by the very society that "champions" personal growth.
When a woman views herself as "nursing" a man through change, she is, perhaps unknowingly, looking down on him. The respect was never truly present, nor was the belief in his potential. However, when a woman genuinely believes in a man's vision and admires him deeply, she will "buy-in", much like in a business partnership. Having done her due diligence, she commits to him, deeming him worthy of her support, trusting in his ability to become the man he was always meant to be.
The tragic truth for men who reach the pinnacle of their ascent is that it is often a lonely place. Male wisdom is earned through trials by fire, but this journey often leads to emotional desensitisation. Along the way, men may experience abandonment and come to cherish the few who truly cared. Yet, for those who swoop in once they have reached the top, men know their presence is transactional, lacking in genuine meaning, as the ascent itself has numbed them to such fleeting connections.
Yet another insightful revelation into the male psyche, what alien have you this handbook? I kid, keen observation and independent data analysis would suffice,a rare quality nowadays esp women in regards to men, I'm skeptical about whether it's not a dude behind this accounts cos it's so mirror-esque😂.I also kid,kinda🙂
Anyway I have this saying ,which to me is more profound than simple almost corny conventional affirmations of love, and it's "She'll be my raison d'être". Raison d'être meaning "reason for existence/being". She'd act like a tether to the world, for those who find it hard or aren't innately blessed with a profound sense of purpose. I believe women are more connected and in tune with the world and life than men and so seeing the world through her colourful and vibrant eyes would give the life a perspective that supercedes hope. That's my opinion and although it may seem like significantly dependent variation of muse, I think it's one of the paths to available to a sorjourner in quest of meaning in an absurd world.