Highly intelligent outlier men often have an underdeveloped Anima which, if unlocked, will revolutionise their genius into something near incomprehensible. Outlier cognition is not merely a gift, but a symptom of psychic survival. More often than not, these men have had traumatic, asymmetrical, or neglectful relationships with their mother - causing severe psychic wounding to their nervous system regulation and a tectonic fracture in their connection with the Anima - the feminine dimension of the psyche, the bridge to unconscious wisdom - the place between intellect and instinct, between ego and soul, between who they had to be and who they truly are. This stunts emotional undercurrents, resulting in near-total suppression of intuition, for emotion is the conduit through which intuition flows - and intuition is a felt-sense, anchored in subconscious somatic gut–brain axis intelligence.
However, the human biological survival instinct is primordially strong and often underestimated - fierce new neural pathways form in the fracture's place, creating piercing perception and heightened pattern recognition. It cultivates a peculiar niche of rare outlier genius that cracks open inherent intelligence and amplifies the logical faculties of the mind - replicating, as best it can, what was lost. Where the psyche cannot feel and flow, it thinks - with transcendent depth. This results in Apollonian levels of abstraction and extraction, reality and will-bending creative rebellion, hyper-symbolic or systemic fluency, interdisciplinary observational philosophical synthesis, and subtextual inference mastery - a mind paradoxically fluid in its compensatory heightened logic, because it does not inherently accept presented constructs as default. It deems that which appears solid to be malleable - just as the foundational structures it once assumed sound crumbled to dust. Thus, it becomes exquisitely innovative on a theoretical basis, holding multiple concepts simultaneously - shaping them like clay across dimensions and domains. For some, this creates a blind spot, where philosophical insight is mistaken for intuition.
That which cannot flow will find a way to flow - even if perverse. We often forget that perversion has its own genius. Just as physical acquired savant syndrome can result from injury leading to neural rewiring and sudden talents, so too can emotional trauma and neglect lead to hauntingly beautiful non-linear mental architecture. It redirects and rewires neural pathways to maintain psychic equilibrium and increases baseline neuroplasticity. This genius is not born of wholeness, but of exquisite psychic tension - borne of survival, a coerced but undoubtedly brilliant adaptation. The mind builds stained-glass cathedrals because the soul wasn't held. It makes those who love them admire them like great works of art - soul-shatteringly beautiful because of the pain and transformation they have endured.
But there is a persistent, eroding cost - one which they are often painfully aware of. Such genius comes with dissociation from the body, for that which is created to survive, by nature, corrodes that which fulfils. There is no release valve for their ever-crescendoing psychic pressure, often unrelieved by true spiritual or emotional intimacy. They suffer a deep, harrowing loneliness - a devouring black hole, masked by cognitive richness and socially admired forms of prowess - yet it never feels enough. In moments of stillness, they feel alien even to their own feelings, and live with a quiet ache that cannot easily be named.
They genuinely desire to love and be loved, yet if honest with themselves, they struggle to love, to truly receive the love they long to feel, and to stay - because their internal landscape often feels like shifting sands due to their mental agility - it constantly and rapidly moves goalposts, creating an endless obstacle course to their heart - and to their Anima. This is the mental manifestation of a wounded nervous system attempting self-protection through hypervigilance. There is also a quiet, understated obsession with transformation and the pursuit of meaning - because within this exists an unspoken familiarity, something that feels like sanity in a state of flux - which equally drains them. As a result, they often sustain themselves through stimulants or dopamine-driven activities - further hurtling towards dorsal vagal shutdown. They begin to question whether the "reality" tinged with a subtle lucidity or haze is what others experience too - for what they gained in insight, they lost in grounding.
Furthermore, while the hippocampus typically encodes explicit memory, trauma often bypasses this pathway - instead imprinting across a distributed neural network, including the posterior cingulate cortex, which governs real-time self-awareness and autobiographical recall. This contributes to the past haunting them in a non-linear cadence, like an unwanted ghost - bleeding into the present like watercolour paint. It unwittingly induces quiet threads of floating anxiety, creating subconscious temporal disorientation - which adds to the tendency to mistrust others, not only due to the perceived incompetence seen through the weight of their own genius, but also because mistrust regulates the nervous system by creating distance - further disassociating them from their body. As mainstream love is often embodied by the notion of possession, intimacy can feel like cumbersome engulfment - thus their mind favours the idealisation of perfection, of archetypally potent women - an apparition that no one can fully embody, because she is alive and shapeshifts - a cognitively constructed safety net, where something unattainable justifies their "one foot out the door" kind of love.
They are also usually hypersensitive to, and aware of, manipulation - and while they recognise that not all manipulation is sinister or rooted in foul intent, the choice they must make is whether they are willing to subject themselves to positive manipulation, knowing it will often require them to relentlessly - though introspectively - question such motives, to ensure they remain anchored in goodwill. This, too, burns through their internal energetic reserves. Yet paradoxically, the very ability to do so validates the existence of unfathomable levels of spiritual reserves - something that is sexually appealing, on an intuitive level, to many women.
The poetry of their existence is that they often have an incredibly healing presence, enabling others to just be - because they deeply respect existence. This is why, as much as they are capable of time dilation, their generous gift of presence is an intentional offering. What holds meaning for them is often intertwined with time itself. That which they give is precisely what they so desire.
Perhaps the most beautiful truth is that their Anima still quietly exists - however, without external healthy modelling or a safe internal passage to feel that which once caused immense pain, the nervous system incarcerates the Anima. Unbeknownst to them, their unintegrated Anima becomes divinely potent - a dormant wellspring of spiritual rejuvenation, covered in overgrown poison ivy, retained in a stasis-like luminescent cocoon - emanating a subtle pulsing glow. She is not dead, but exiled - living beneath the floorboards - for she is the embodiment of Mother Nature within them and thus saturates the unconscious, appearing as subtle flickers in dreams and synchronicities the conscious mind dismisses as mere coincidence. She is unstoppable, even when actively evaded. She just is.
Their healing begins with reception - first logical, then spiritual - but recalibrates somatically. It is the reintegration of abandoned corners of the soul. They are naturally extremely capable of undergoing integration themselves, however, due to the nature of the fracture, synergetic regulation can be beneficial in creating a catalysing environment. The catalyst must engage their logical, conscious facets and formations - building cognitive trust, thereby enabling spiritual resonance. Equally, the catalyst's Anima must be unabashedly present and flow freely - not only modelling love, but also enveloping them in emotional safety and unconditional acceptance - without demand, without expectation - just warmth. This allows the self to unfurl gently and organically in the presence of this compassionate witness - one who sees and knows without unnecessary intrusion or invasiveness. This, however, is rare - because it requires emotional literacy, and is best achieved through connections that blur conventional boundaries and offer less confronting access to the soul - through the side door.
With a consistent presence over a meaningful period, such a connection can demonstrate what it means to stay. This, in conjunction with emotional congruence and attunement to their subtle shifts, enables their nervous system to relearn how to calm and regulate itself - thus the corrosion of the incarceration cell's padlock begins - and the sound of such corrosion stirs the Anima. Dreams deepen, synchronicities are imbued with meaning, and intuition is amplified. Truth becomes an accepted knowing, not a hyper-analysis. Somatically, the body and soul begin to learn what true safety feels like - catalysing the synthesis of new neural pathways, in addition to their existing outlier genius. For true gnosis is not conceptual - it is cellular, and it must be felt. The soul always knows before the mind explains - which is why that which cannot be instantly named is often the inherent truth - where thoughts fuse with being, symbols breathe, and insights are felt.
More often than not, this experience initiates a spiritual awakening. The Anima, potent in her purity, is unreservedly unleashed. Deep emotions cease to feel solely foreign - they begin to soothe, or even satisfy. Even the uncomfortable ones become more bearable, as their unburdened spiritual reserves now hold and enable conflicting feelings to coexist with greater ease. Felt tenderness no longer incites the desire to flee - the impulse becomes dulled, muffled even - for the architecture of the mind does not collapse, it expands. Perhaps the most powerful manifestation of such change is their reconnection with their deep inner knowing - something their psyche now rapidly inhales. There is a newfound emotional fluidity, albeit tinged with a kind of charming uncertainty, due to its spiritual infancy. A new form of awareness assaults their senses - the world just flows with a little more vibrancy, causing temporary energetic depletion as they adjust. It is fatigue born of what feels like an internal collision of colour - because internal creation no longer needs to be compartmentalised or fragmented - it becomes whole. Knowing becomes enough - thus, in not knowing, their genius paradoxically grounds itself. While neural pathway healing often becomes noticeable within a few months, mitochondrial healing - physical regeneration - can take up to two years to be felt, even with heightened interoception. Thus, there is a functional split between mind and body healing - the body is meant to take a little longer.
Post-integration, growth continues - and much like those who speak more than one language, whose minds activate more grey matter - so too do these men access deeper mental prowess. Their sage-level logical cognition fuses with mystic-level spiritual awareness, held together by long-trained spiritual reserves. They become archetypal kings - enhanced in genius, with intuition embodied not as survival, but as truth. Whole. An outlier genius fluent in intuitive epistemology.
It's not often that a text on the Internet speaks to me so deeply that I take the time to comment on it.
The first part of the article touched me in a personal way, making me emotional and reliving events from my childhood/adolescence that may well have caused me trauma. I imagine that's why I'm cold, I don't think I'll be loved and, as you wrote, I can't connect with the Anima.
Your choice of words, like an artisan, impacted my heart like no other article here (or on Twitter) has been able to do.
Lauren, thank you for once again being a light in the midst of the emotional darkness that I and so many others are caught up in.
there is no way that a woman wrote this.
what is going on here?