Most men are aware that women often fall in love with an idealised version of them - a fantasy constructed in our minds. Yet, in recognising this dynamic, women too feel compelled to maintain the fantasy of ourselves in the minds of the men we love and desire. In a modern society fixated on external perfection and overt objectification - women yearn to remain beautiful and ethereal in the memories of those we have loved.
This longing explains why many women wish to be immortalised as a vision of beauty, untouched by the flaws of reality. For some, this creates a fear of deep connection - so that the broken and less savoury aspects of their being remain veiled. Yet paradoxically, it is precisely these hidden imperfections - our forbidden secrets and shadowed facets - that render us unforgettable and hauntingly beautiful in the minds of men.
It is imperfection that captivates the heart and stirs the soul.