I find that "people pleasers" are often sensitive individuals who have experienced emotional pain themselves. They typically operate from a selfless place, shaped by the experience of having their own emotions overlooked or dismissed by others. Their heightened sensitivity to subtle relational dynamics means that, even when they require personal space or lack the desire to engage, they prioritise others' feelings over their own well-being.
Rather than upholding their own dignity, they frequently sacrifice it to ensure that others are spared the pain they once endured - striving to make others feel safe and cared for. However, this pattern is ultimately unhealthy. What about their own feelings? They must recognise that it is not only acceptable but necessary to embrace their authenticity and to express their needs with clarity.
Because they have often existed in an environment where unspoken tensions were the norm - direct communication can feel alien or even wrong. Yet, cultivating this skill is essential for their own growth and emotional well-being - otherwise, resentment awaits.
Definitely. One-half of a people pleaser’s personality eats the other. It’s a tough life for those who can’t figure it out. Internally, at least